-Patience is not passive waiting. Patience is active acceptance of the process required to attain your goals and dreams.
Ray A. Davis

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-In relationships, and especially in BDSM relationships, most problems are caused not by what you don’t do or don’tsay. Quite the opposite: most problems are caused by your actions, not by your inaction. If you do or say something hurtful, or stupid, or immature, that can undo a lot – if not all – the work you’ve already put into the relationship.

This is such a real thing that it should be common knowledge, but lately I wonder if I had known this before reading WebWanderer’s words of advice. In my own life I remember times when I have been on cue as well as times when I’ve badly fumbled an opportunity to meet my desired goal.

Oftentimes we are our own worst enemy, misspeaking or being unreasonable enough to believe that our time is more important than the target of affection and longing.

In my own life I’ve been there at the right time and said the right thing and I’ve developed a fantastic relationship with a friend and lover or task mistress who fills all of the desires under the sun for whom we desire to have the bedrock of our lives shaped and built in our wildest of fantasies.

A loving partner who cares and meets needs unrealized they were even there in the first place. Only to throw it away with unkind words and impatience at a lack of financial success in life.

The words written by the post I’m writing about strike a chord within me because they ring true and highlight my lack of patience as well as a childishness I had clung to even after 7 years of marriage and three children of my own.

I am ashamed of the person that I was on that awful day, but I am no longer that person, and have taken control of a small measure of myself and begun my lifelong journey to a become better person than I was on that day.

Fortunately for my part, the verbally silent part is a skill and natured as I grew up from a wee lad. Having a conversation with myself generally takes either you opening dialog with me or I finally needed a conversation with anyone or you specifically to maintain my sanity to know that yes there are other people in my world that want to spend some time in conversation with me.

On the other hand, most days, when even I haven’t posted here yet, I’ve almost definitely been at least texting someone to chat. It’s the nature of today’s social interaction that I know in part has at times led to my downfall in that I was either impatient or impulsive enough to throw myself under the social media bus of the respond now frantic frenzy that ruined a chance or countless chances in an aptly named sub-frenzy.

As quoted at the beginning of this post, patience is actively waiting and active acceptance of the process.

Thank you Mistress for reminding me of this in reflecting on this post, it’s something that will be remembered in a positive light.