Good morning friends.

I was reading a post on Fetlife and the discussion was submission. How it looks like, feels like and what is involved in submission.

One of my favourite authors has what I believe to be an accurate description of submission. Ms Rikka’s definition is this: true submission is not about what the dominant partner does TO the submissive partner. It’s what the submissive does FOR the dominant.

With this in mind M’lady and I have structured our relationship in just such a manner. I am the “gopher” and the masseuse as well as the janitor and errand boy because that’s what she needs out of me in that moment.

Does that mean it’s not about the sex? Holy cow! Some of the class is paying attention.

No submission isn’t about sex, it’s about doing what M’lady needs done when she needs it how she needs it. Yes sex is at times part of the submission but it’s not the foundation of it.



The foundation is service, the bindings are the agreement to terms I made and the celebration is usually sex.

The joy of service is that there’s always a noticeable ease that M’lady can more easily get things done with the timely service of things done at the right times. With more ease we both have more flexibility to enjoy our relationship and the various ways we enjoy each other.

The service is only one aspect of submission and while one might think that is the end of it, with service, following her rules is also part of if. The chastity, and the collar are reminders of my agreement and signify my submission to the world, my commitment and dedication are to M’lady as her good slave .

Keep it kinky 😈🔑